Lifestyle Development

Calming

2010-08-16T16:30:00.000-04:00

Hey guys, a lot has kept me busy and I've decided to change the focus of this blog a bit and stray away from personal events to broader topics. My life is very interesting right now and I have a lot to tell, but since time doesn't allow I'll lay the jist of whats going on.

Right now I'm cruising Alaska until January as a Sound Engineer. On these weekly cruises I meet tons of great and interesting people. One of which recently stood out. I decided to stay in contact with him through email since onboard we had many challenging and thoughtful convo's. He is about 5 years younger than me and we relate on many things. I'm not at all saying I see myself in him because that would be a bit conceited. But I do understand where he's coming from. Okay now this post is a long one so if your ready, here goes.

This an email he sent me after leaving the ship:

Hey Tristan,
If I haven't said it enough, it is really awesome to get to
talk to someone such as yourself because what you say hits really hard
and we can relate on so many things since it seems almost everything
you've said, I have experienced first hand and it seems like i could
learn so many things about experienxe and life in general from you.
But yeah, you know what I am getting at - this is only the 18th time
I've told ya.
Yep, so this is my email.
Uhh...I know we were talking about something really interesting before
Andrew came and talked to us, something about ... I really can't
recall, but it was something I - do you remember? I know it was just
an extension of our previous conversations ...
Dude it was pretty cool to see you working your magic on Sydney...the
Asian cousin/really good looking girl when we were dancing last night
- it seems like you could've had her right then and there.

Talk to ya soon

And this is my response:

What up brother. It was great getting to know you as well. I know where your coming from cause I've been there and I'm still working on things myself. Improvement is an ongoing thing and it is great that your becoming aware of yourself. Most people live blind to themselves and let opportunities pass by. But the way of thinking that I saw in you is a great start to building yourself to the person you truly want to be. The only blocks are the ones you and your mind create. Anything is possible once you can control your thoughts. It takes a while, but to start: every chance you get, step back from what your thinking and observe what your thinking and your behavior. I know that sounds strange, but try. We all have many levels of consciousness. The one that most of us get caught up with is the thinker, the one whos constantly talking inside. Thats ok. Don't try to stop the thoughts or control them yet, just let them flow and then you can step back in your mind as if your watching yourself think. observing the patterns of what your thinking. Do you notice yourself worrying? Are your thoughts of what to do today or tonight or this next minute? Is your thinking self constantly talking about something in particular? What every it is let the words and chatter in your mind flow, and watch them as the "silent observer". After some practice and getting used to it, you'll start to notice the thinker self slow down and even notice the calm space inbetween thoughts. Eventually that space and quiet will lengthen and lengthen to the point where you can relax into the simple silence. To most minds, silence is a scary thing. The thinker feels threatened like something is wrong if its not busy working. But an easy way to start this calming, is to just listen. Sit in a calm place like your room. Turn off music or TV and computer,

Close your eyes and just listen.

What do you hear?...... Is the heater/AC making a constant vibration in the air? ......Creaking of the floor/walls...... footsteps?....... the flow of Cars outside? .....voices in the house or wherever you are?....... The wind through the trees?...... even the buzzing of a fly?....... Try to really get into the moment by focusing on whats around you. By doing this your attention is to the world and to the present moment and there is little room for thoughts. If you hear a sound and start thinking about what it is or why is happening or where it is, which may lead you to more thoughts, thats ok. just let your thoughts happen and calmly try to regain focus on the present. No need to fight it or get frustrated that the loud voice inside keeps breaking through. Just laugh at it and observe. Do this whenever you can, or before big events, before making big decisions, before going up to someone and starting conversations, before a test, just take a second or 5/10 minutes if you can a listen and relax. In this tranquil state of mind, insecurities float away, indecisivness fades, "Clear your choice shall be" (Yoda) questions of what to do what to say wont matter, because you will be enjoying whats around you whethers its a busy mall, kids chatting/tapping their feet in class, music and people talking in a club or party. Just step back and take it all in. Then you can enjoy every experience for what it is.

I know thats a lot, but I also know your thirst for something more, more in life. And there is plenty out there. Just start slow and enjoy the little frustrations and road blocks and the learning process, because when your frustrated, that means your trying and making progress.

Every frustration in life is one step closer to the success you deserve.
TjaX

Text Game

2010-05-26T13:04:00.001-04:00

Hey guys,

Unfortunately the posts/FR that I was preparing to publish were lost due to my computer melting down!! Major inconvenience, but gotta keep it moving, so with that motivation here is a text article I recently posted on TAF.

After coming home from college, I decided to see who was home for the summer and down to hang. My guy friends are usually either working, with their gf's or sleeping, so I texted some other people and remembered my friend owed me a drink from months ago. This particular friend had been a crush of mine since I can remember. We grew up together and were always good friends, but nothing more. Whenever I was single she was taken, & visa-versa. Turns out, we're both done with school and conveniently single. In the past I wouldn't have been able to hold her interest let alone create solid attraction. I was perpetually stuck in LJBF Zone. Now having gained confidence and skills thanks to LoveSystems and Braddock/Mr. M's book "The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game" I was able to turn an old "best friend zone" situation into an insta-date and a day 2 date.

The day that preceeded the following text convo, I surprised her and showed up at the theatre box office she was volunteering at. Out of no where she gave me a huge hug and ended up going out for a drink after the show. The rest of the night went well and I went home at 4:30AM feeling like my dream was coming true. I could try to recount the events and convo that led to that, but it would be choppy and hard to read at best; that's why they say write field reports when they are fresh, kiddies! Yesterday I needed to reconnect and continue the momentum I had gained. Enjoy!

1:17PM [TjaX]: What up [name]? --sexy trombone playa [thats me]

1:32PM [name]: hey! Not much u?

1:40PM [TjaX]: Cleaning out my Gmom's basement, its like
i stepped back into the 60's

1:40PM [TjaX]: Seriously she should have been on that
show hoarders, this woman doesn't throw
away anything!

1:44PM [name]: Lol I have my gmom out shopping

1:53PM [TjaX]: Shopping! Yay i can't wait to see the
present you got me!

1:54PM [name]: Lol I can't even shop for myself gmom
thinks everything is too expensive I have to
come back alone.

2:18PM [TjaX]: Haha mine's the opposite, she buys
everything then I have to clean it up. If she
doesn't learn responsibility I'll have to take
away her card and keys

2:30PM [name]: Lol I want to shop so badly its like torture

2:40PM [TjaX]: Easy valley girl I'll bring you to the outlets
sometime to get ur fix.

2:45PM [TjaX]: Speaking of torture, I think my gmom is
making me lunch...I'm scared, if you don't
hear from me I was poisoned :/

3:12PM [name]: lol very funny shes not going to poison you

*I left it at that A) because I had to eat and continue cleaning and 2) to continue the joke that I was poisoned.*

6:34PM [name]: hey there, u still alive?

6:45PM [TjaX]: my stomach of steel saves me yet again!
You should come to Rita's [waterice] with
me. I need to get rid of this aweful
aftertaste, someone should tell her
spaghetti, red sauce, and tuna do not mix
well

6:52PM [name]: LOL you should've put syrup and poptarts
on top! ["Elf" reference] When?

6:53PM [TjaX}: Ew wierdo, good thing ur hot or I'd have to
stop pretending to be nice, like a south pole
elf >:] [acknowledging the reference] I'll
swing by in 15?

6:55PM [name]: Jerk, you know you can't get enough of me
call me when your outside

*The rest of the date: we went to get water ice, talked a bit about finally finishing school, etc. other comfort stuff, and after about 2 hrs I dropped her off, kiss closed, and went on my way.

Feel free to give me any suggestions or critiques you wish, positive or negative- its all feedback. I hope this helps show you that the LJBF zone isn't impossible to break out of.

Test your limits, and they may disappear.
Disassociate yourself from outcomes, and you will see what's really there; the MatriX
~TjaX

Coming Soon

2010-04-12T03:57:00.000-04:00

The time since my last post has been long, but well worth it. The past two months I've been grinding down on school, focusing on recovering from my injury, and most importantly plenty of In-Field time. In January I had stocked myself with the Routines Manual 1 & 2 from Love Systems and the last two months I've been working on absorbing them. Results, simply amazing results, but thats all in the next post.

Quality reviews, application practices, and some JUICY Field Reports are all coming your way. Check back soon for the Development of a Lifestyle!

1 of "Those" days

2010-02-17T02:21:00.000-05:00

Or weeks in my case,

This week is a bit rough for me. Classes are in full swing and the work is starting to look daunting. Jazz Concert was great; nailed my solo, but that's not enough to keep my spirits high. Recently I injured my back at work, but did not notice symptoms until after my seasonal employment ended. So now I have to pay for everything myself, no workers comp.

Being a student is hard enough without the looming doom of financial crisis. Now I'm receiving more bills in the mail (that I did not see coming) and my finances are feeling squished. God I hope that this whole "government medical funding" issue is resolved soon so people can start feeling the relief that was promised. Workers compensation, Insurance Coverage, Cobra, etc. are all very confusing and there seems to be little guidance out there that doesn't have a steep price-tag.

With all of this piling up, its obvious why I don't feel so chipper. But I have had another oblivious epiphany moment. You don't have to be happy all the time.
I've been fighting and pushing myself to achieve happiness and its been an uphill battle. It is a simple balance in nature that governs why this is so. Just as in the absence of Good, there can be no Evil. Without sadness what would happiness be? Its the eb and flow, the yin yang. Everything in this world moves in cycles and being an audio engineer I should've known this.
A sound wave travels up and down like any wave. There is a low point and a high point and plenty in between. Such is our daily lives. We have to have lows so we can have highs. It doesn't mean we have to succumb to being miserable in our lows. It means that every moment is passing and the passing of every moment brings us closer to the next. This is an obvious idea, but I often overlook it.

It is not necessary to be happy all the time,
but it is necessary to be Positive all the time.

Negativity doesn't do anybody any good, and to give energy to it would be taking steps backwards.
So heres to the bad times that bring us towards the good.

For some ways to get through "those" kinda days check this out.

~TjaX

theres more to it than You think

2010-02-10T02:47:00.003-05:00

The Official Project Rockstar 2010 Announcement is out. I have been reading the Rockstar blogs and am impressed. I had heard about it the past two years but never gave myself the opportunity to endulge. All of the Rockstars were very interesting, but one really blew me away. I now see why he was picked for the Project. He goes by whim. This guy is around my age and really has his shit together. From the video application I learned that he is a successful entrepeneur like Starlight. He has started businesses that rake in over $60,000 a year (by now its shooting towards the millions). He is incredibly efficient and organized and has intriguing insights. If I could, I would shadow him for a day to just pick his brain about his habits for Health, Wealth, and Love.

I know how off the charts my motivation can be, especially when given the right tools for success. -whim has these tools. Being secluded in smalltown PA I haven't gotten much exposure to things such as Affiliate Marketing. I keep hearing Affiliate Marketing here and there and until now was unaware(consciously) that it existed. I guess I never stopped to think about it, but it is kinda obvious. I just added a new goal to my list: Learn Affiliate Marketing. Bonsai has mentioned it plenty on his blog and sometime I may be able to sit down with him and whim to gain a better understanding of creating a successful business.

Becoming a LoveSystems Instructor is a strong goal, but the title of this blog isn't Instructor Development. There are so many facets to creating the lifestyle I know I deserve. But now I realize how much more to it there is. I'm not only going to become skilled socially, but I also plan to become independently wealthy, reach peak physical fitness, start my own online business, own and run a club/restruant, and much more.

Graduating school and having a solid job lined up after is a good start, but my glass ceiling just shot up about 1,000,000 ft higher. I mean come on.
This is my LIFE we're talking about here, and no matter what, I'm going to make it the best-life and my best-self as possible. This is only the beginning...

Dr. Phil gets it, so can you..

2010-02-08T23:49:00.004-05:00

Letter To LoveSystems

2010-01-26T14:11:00.003-05:00

A Day in the Life of a LoveSystems Instructor;
How little I know about it, and how badly I want to experience it.

"Hi guys, I gotta go in a sec my friends are here, but real quick, is it wrong to train oneself how to approach and attract women that in the past wouldn't have even know you existed? . . ."

Alright just kidding. Well half-kidding...
Hi Savoy/LoveSystems/Readers, my name is Tristan Jackson, some call me TjaX.

Of course it isn't wrong to learn how to approach women, people, or the challenges of life.

My path, like most, started with Neil's epic novel. I was given the book in late 2006 and with the turn of the first page, my entire life changed forever though I did not know it yet. For the next year I immersed myself in the forum trying to absorb all I could. I soon realized that without practice and experience I was going no where. Unfortunately, I made excuses. Lack of money,college, life responsibilities all gave me reasons why not. I had made minor improvements, but nothing consistent. I was trying to balance other areas of my life so I started reading Tony Robbins stuff which gave me a completely new outlook. None the less, learning the Venusian Arts fell by the wayside when I got into a few relationships. But by the end of the relationship, I would be rusty and out of practice. Of course I'd go back to the forum, then came Magic Bullets and it was solid gold, true Alchemy. Again, however, I would get in another relationship and it would go to the back of my mind. This cycle repeated several times, where I would be really motivated for a week or so, then back off and forget what I was supposed to be working on.

2 years pass.

A few months ago, August, another relationship ended and that was it, I had had enough. I realized that I was half-assing my own ambitions and happiness. I wasn't using these skills to their full potential. I had done a disservice to myself. So that day, I took some time for myself, mapped out my goals and desires and committed to treating myself as high value and to going after what I want. Months ensued and I ended the year with a bang, Swing dancing on New Years in the middle of a crowd at a Cherry Poppin Daddy's concert with a girl I had met earlier that day. *F Close

Which brings us to the Now. Wheels started turning and I could feel something shift inside of me. I have never felt anything like this before. I had tapped an unknown source of energy and knowledge because I finally saw Real results. I am thirsting like never before to learn more, go out and meet people, not just women, just for the sake of having fun and being social. I was supercharged when I returned to school on Jan 15th equipped with an all new set of "Goals" for 2010. Savoy's New Years Resolutions are now hanging on my bedroom door so I see it every morning, night and in between, right next to my Brain-Map courtesy of Bonsai.

On New Years day I created the most important, most desired goal of all:

Become a LoveSystems Instructor

I have dabbled and followed the community since it was still TMM, but I'm tired of dabbling. "Jack of all trades, Master of none." doesn't cut it anymore. I don't just want to get good with women. Love Systems has already helped me improve drastically from my old AFC ways. I want, No I NEED to break through the invisible societal boundaries and create a life that is full of women and adventure, as well as satisfying. I missed two big chances with Project Rockstar 08/09, but that's not an excuse, that can't stop me from getting what I want.

I want the lifestyle, I want the travel, I want to work with people from around the world, I want to contribute to something so big that it transforms thousands of lives every year. Most importantly I want to teach these skills to achieve a true understanding inside and out, and to help others that have been crushed by the harsh reality of not having social skills. I want to teach others like others have taught me. Like Tony Robbins says, to live a satisfying life we must GIVE. Its not a chore. I'm excited to one day have the opportunity to change someones life for the better. All of this by doing something that I love.

I have a long journey ahead of me, but I will stay on the road this time. Due to current enrollment in college, and a great internship I do not have the resources yet to attend a boot camp, which I understand is crucial to my development. I'm giving myself 2 years to becoming a Love Systems Instructor. It may take longer, but I'm ready to put in the work, punch the hours and do whatever it takes to join the ranks of some of the most inspirational and innovative men in the world.

P.S. This was intended to be a mere introduction, but it became more as I now reread and really believe what I wrote.

Savoy - I know you're busy, but I hope I get the chance to hear back from you. If not maybe I'll meet all of you in person at the NYC mini-conference.

Warm Regards,
TjaX
Tristan Jackson
jackson.tristan@gmail.com